Relationships are fun, but breakups are inevitable (if he is not the right one) and the most essential phase in every girl’s life because, who knows, this can lead to self-discovery and a new journey. But knowing that your partner does not love you is even more heartbreaking! So, to stay away from these ungrateful people who destroy your peace of mind, you must discover signs that he never loved you.
How does it feel like when you are in 5 five-year relationship, and your partner dumps you just by saying that he never loved you. It was just attraction. It happened to me; I was shattered.
And honey, listen, Not all relationships are meant to stay forever and flourish; some come into your life to teach you self-love and self-care.
Before he destroys your mental peace, look for these signs and knock him out of your life:
1. NO EFFORTS
Girl, the relationship is 50-50, not 100-0; remember that you are not the only one doing it. If your person doesn’t make any effort to make you feel good, check on him. Does he bring you flowers? Does he buy chocolates for you? Does he cook for you? Does he take care when you are on your period?
If the answer is NO, then girl, ensure you are not investing in the wrong person. A real man who loves you would make an effort for you, and you don’t have to ask for it. So choose your man wisely, girl.
2. YOU’RE NOT HIS PRIORITY
It’s okay if you are not his priority sometimes because he has other work commitments as well, but If it happens every time, then it is unacceptable. You always feel you are not his priority because he makes you feel like. Not just I love you, he never asks you before his boys movie nights or holiday plans.
You think you stick around him as he treats you as his third or last option. The feeling of for granted is very vulnerable because soon he will start using you. Darling, you don’t deserve to be treated like an option when you should be his priority.
3. NO COMMITMENTS FOR FUTURE
A wedding ring is not just a commitment. His assurances of marrying you, having kids with you, and your retirement year plans are also very valuable. Please don’t BEG for his promise because this will only be short-term.
It might be one of the signs that he never loved you because he has no commitments for the future with you. He is just treating you like an option or time pass. You might have initiated the talk, but nothing came from his side.
4. IGNORANCE
It might be your dream to be cared for and respected in a relationship by your partner, but all you are getting is ignored. He disconnects from you whenever you guys have a fight, or something goes wrong in his life. Rather than sharing his thoughts, he better feel to cut it down from you and never talk about it.
Moreover, take my advice: only be available to someone available for you when you need him or if he ignores you. Men usually don’t care about things they have at ease.
5. NEVER OPENED WITH YOU
This might be one of the other signs that he never loved you. They never try to connect with you emotionally. He always tries to keep his personal things to himself and never talks about his thoughts. He might have a marked physical relation with you, but still, it can be a chance that you both have to unrevealed your emotional connection with each other.
Here’s a pro tip from your girl: Never open up too much in a relationship (respect your boundaries), and wait to open up very much until you are sure he is the right person and will not judge you for who you are.
6. NEVER RESPECT YOU
Love is built on mutual respect and understanding. You should also always feel that your partner hears and respects you. If he doesn’t respect you, he might just not be interested in you, or maybe he is just with you for sex.
Respect is the basic need that every girl needs, even if you’re in a relationship or not. Remember that respect should be in public, in the 4 walls of the house, and also when he is angry. He should not only respect you in people just for his image.
7. HE’S HOT AND COLD WITH YOU
You’re unable to figure out who he is? In one moment, he is happy and normal, but every next moment, he is angry and unresponsive. He is always polite with you when he needs something from you, and once the work is done, he vanishes.
Moreover, another sign that he never loved you can be is that he gaslights you. After a fight, when you don’t resolve the matter, you are in two different worlds.
8. HE DOESN’T SPEND TIME WITH YOU
You have sat down together for years and spent quality time with each other. He never comes up with the idea of making your dates more memorable. When free, he is still on his phone, and you are just talking (for him on the ground).
This can be one of the signs that he never loved you because he doesn’t want to spend time with you. He is always on his busy schedule and barely spares even a day for you every week. Darling, don’t be with someone who can’t give you the most precious thing in this world: his time.
9. THEY DON’T RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES
He continuously overlooks your boundaries. He always imposes his thoughts and decisions before respecting and actually knowing about your sexual, emotional, or financial boundaries.
Whenever you talk about your needs, values, and wants, he is always like; yeah, okay, never mind, girl, this is a red flag. You don’t need someone who doesn’t know your boundaries and insists on breaking them.
10. HE IS CHEATING ON YOU
He might not have loved you just because he has HIS SECOND OR MAIN OPTION. A real man would never cheat on you because he knows the value of true love and eternal emotional connection.
He might have found some temporary excitement and pleasures with others, but that makes you less or worse. It’s their loss, honey. This could be the most evident and possible sign that he never loved you.
11. THEY MANIPULATE AND LIE TO YOU
When I was in love with my ex, he manipulated and lied to me, and I was so blind that I couldn’t even notice it. I guess it is fair enough because love is blind. The early stage of manipulation is gaslighting you with small things. The blame is on you whenever something goes wrong, even if you did it.
You are a terrible person every time. Moreover, Abuse is yet another sign of hiding their manipulation. But remember, girl, Abuse is never okay! Maybe it is verbal, physical, or emotional.
12. PUT HIMSELF FIRST
You are always treated Like an option. Only their priorities, strengths, and goals are on the list, not yours. He respects his boundaries but forces you to cross yours. He doesn’t care about you. All he is concerned about is himself. Sweetheart, you don’t deserve to be treated that way.
A man who loves you will always make you his priority no matter what comes. He will notice everything, even you talking about them.
13. HE DOESN’T BELIEVE IN YOU
If he never loved you, why would he care about your dreams, your goals, your aspirations, and most importantly, you. He laughs and belittles you when you talk about your decisions to him. He never believed in your inner potential to grow and become a strong, independent woman.
He makes you feel like you are worthless. Listen, if he loved you, he would never do that. He will always believe in you even if you fail at it.
14. THEY QUICKLY MOVE ON AFTER A BREAKUP
If your partner loved you, he would not have moved on that fast. He might have taken some time to find out if he was in love with you. Your ex moved on quickly just because he was not broken.
Healing takes time, and it is not an overnight process. You have to talk sometime before falling in love again. If that is what he did, he was not the one.
15. JUST SEX, NOT LOVE
Every time you are making out, it’s just for sex, not for love. He doesn’t make you feel good, beautiful, and extraordinary about your body. You are just doing the deed without passion, respect, and boundaries.
He is never concerned about your satisfaction and pleasures. Once he is satisfied, he turns his back on you and sleeps.
16. YOURE MORE OF A PARENT THAN PARTNER
This can be one of the signs that he never loved you, which is that you are more of a parent than a partner. Every time he makes a mistake, you scold him like his mother.
Honey, you have to be just his partner, not his parents, because we don’t like to have a parent in our partner because it’s so frustrating. And remember that saying, Never fulfill his needs at a girlfriend price when you are a wife material.
17. HE DOESN’T TRY TO CONNECT
He is concerned about his physical relationship and never tries to connect emotionally and mentally. You two have a communication gap, which keeps increasing with him making a bridge between them.
Whenever you try to communicate with him, he shuts you down and leaves the place. He never tries to communicate and tell you what is happening inside him.
18. HE NEVER INTRODUCES YOU WITH HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY
It is a win-win if he introduces you to his family and friends, which means he is serious about the relationship. But if he doesn’t, stay cautious, girl. He might be just a fling. The introduction is a try of commitment that he wants you in his family and will marry you. If he hasn’t introduced yet, it can be one of the signs that he never loved you.
19. HE DOSENT WANT TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP PUBLIC
This might not be a big red flag that he doesn’t want to make the relationship public, but if he still doesn’t let you post pictures, it might be a reason that he isn’t sure, about you or doesn’t love you. If he loves you, he won’t be afraid of accepting you in public.
These are some signs that he never loved you and was maybe you for some pleasures, time, or attention, and remember, honey, not everyone deserves you!
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