The spotlight is on you! Are you the calm and confident one to grab that attention? Ahh, I am still trying to figure that out. Relax and Chill! Have you ever wondered if “THAT GIRL” entered the room, would she say the same thing? Probably not.
I know it takes a lot to say that, but there are no wrinkles for now because we will ace this together! Here are the top 11 confidential tips that will make you the queen with all the confidence, calmness, and elegance.
You’re not the only one uncertain about certain things in life; most of us are! Even now, at times, I panic if something huge comes up, but now I know how to tackle and get out of that, and trust me, you will, too. Now, you might have a question: If calm and confident are two opposite words, then how are these related?
You will radiate more confidence when you’re calm. How would you expect yourself to decide with a quiet mind if you’re panicking? You can’t be confident if your inner self is in chaos!
Now, what should you do NOT to PANIC? Being calm and composed brings a lot of patience in letting things go. Realizing you have no control over everything, trust God’s plan; he always has better options for you.
Holding a glass of water for a more extended period doesn’t affect the glass, but your hand is similar to holding worries, problems, and stresses for too long only affects your mental health and nothing else. So, no more thinking about the stuff that doesn’t bring you happiness, PROMISE?
So let’s dive in so that no one can see the redness on your face when you panic; thank me later 🙂
WHAT IS MEANT BY CALM AND CONFIDENT?
Okay, how do you explain calm and confidence? I would describe it by saying that staying calm in life storms! Sometimes, life is a roller coaster ride, too, right? Staying calm, unfrustrated, and confident about your actions and their circumstances.
In terms of calmness, in stressful situations, you can control your emotions, not panic at once, mess things up, and make them more complicated. Being present in the PRESENT moment.
For confidence, trust your abilities, express yourself freely, and even show confidence in your body language and expressions. Staying calm and confident allows you to handle difficult situations more effectively, make better decisions, and positively influence those around you.
WHY DO YOU WANT TO LOOK CALM AND CONFIDENT?
There can be hundreds and hundreds of reasons why you want to look because all of us have different goals and expectations, but here are some that you can relate to:
- Attract more confidence.
- Want to be successful.
- Have healthy relationships.
- To grab everyone’s attention.
- To be Happier in life.
- Improved mental and physical health
- To be fearless.
- Better lifestyle, i.e., your dream lifestyle.
Find your motivation, and let’s get started!
HOW TO LOOK CALM AND CONFIDENT?
Here are my top 11 confidential tips to help you exit your uncertain phase.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Girl, how can you shine confidently if you constantly think about your insecurities? Get up and work on them. Write them on paper, including acne, body weight, nail biting, mindless scrolling, and everything. Promise yourself to pick one and work on it until it’s done.
Working on yourself will help you to become self-assured and calm because you know nothing can take you down. You have no weaknesses or insecurities. As advice from your bestie, don’t strive for THAT PERFECTIONISM. Perfectionism is your greatest enemy.
The main goal is to go to bed happy by the end of the day, not with any regrets or frustration. Do everything that makes you happy and confident. Wear the dress, shades, or jeans you want.
PRO TIP: WEAR YOUR CONFIDENCE ON YOUR SLEVEES!
TAKE RISKS
I have heard this hundreds of times from different people; I don’t feel confident because I haven’t done anything BIG in my life. Just tell me one thing: who is stopping you? Get out of your comfort zone and look for the challenges and changes that can transform your life.
Wake up early, quit drinking, work on your dreams for 10 hours daily, and Stay disciplined. Girl, it’s your life; no excuses will ever work, trust me. Take risks because these will give you the courage to grow and evolve.
Once you have overcome any risk in your life, you will be far more confident than the confidence you started with. If I hadn’t taken the risk of moving alone to a new country, I would still have been in the same place and thinking about WHAT IFs.
DONT TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY
Not this down; not everything said in the room is for you, so stop overthinking. Don’t bother about that until someone approaches you and says something on your face. It’s useless that you’re thinking about that one fact over a thousand times, exhausting you mentally.
RELAX and take a chill pill(please buy me one, too; I am currently out of those).
Anyway, Don’t let anyone come up to you and ruin your mental peace in just a millisecond. Protecting your inner peace is the same as your physical health, which is non-negotiable. Not taking everything to heart will make you more confident and patient because you cannot be swayed away by anything .babe, listen, you’re not a weakling that anyone can ruin you; you’re a queen, DON’T FORGET THAT.
CHANGE YOUR MINDSET
YES, ITS A MINDSET GAME! Changing your mindset from fixed to growth is always a good decision. Changing your mindset is more challenging than it looks like. Being on that path involves a lot of courage, consistency, discipline, and patience. But once you have cracked that game, you will be unstoppable and unbeatable because it will drastically change your habits and behavior.
Secondly, your self-talk will change for the better, of course. You will encounter more positive feelings about yourself instead of saying you are dumb. You will eventually learn the importance of staying in the present, not the future or past.
The most critical mindset shift I have observed in my journey is about success; there are no overnight success stories. I must tell you that you can only be successful and generate generational wealth with an active mindset. You have to burn yourself like the sun to shine like one.
LETTING GO THINGS
I love this Buddhist quote: learning to let go is the key to happiness. Why do you not want to be happy? Holding grudges for longer will give you nothing but stress, anxiety, and regret. If someone did something terrible to you, it doesn’t make you the wrong person.
Just tell me, what was my fault if my boyfriend was toxic? ( not everyone deserves loyalty)Learning to let things go can help you a lot, and I mean it. If you are happy, you will spill happiness around you. Your environment will be more optimistic and growing.
Stop saying that your ex left you, your best friend ditched you, or your parents don’t support you. Don’t nag and cry about the facts that you can’t change. Just tell me, if you can’t laugh over one joke again and again, then why can you cry over one thing again and again, huh?
PRACTICE MINDFULNESS
Spare time for yourself because you deserve it. Spend some time meditating, doing yoga, and practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness will not only help you to calm your mind but also help you to connect with your inner mind and body.
Practicing yoga will help you stay in shape, manage your stress, improve your focus and productivity, and improve your physical and mental health. It would be best if you had nothing besides morning mindfulness to connect with yourself.
Moreover, you can join some 6 am clubs to help you socialize more with people and be grateful for who you are.
On top of it, you can practice journaling in the morning, which will boost your mood for the day. You can also join some strengthening exercises that will help you increase your reflexes and stay calm in thunderstorms!
APPRECIATE YOURSELF
If you did it, You deserve it. Appreciate yourself and reward yourself with the things on your bucket list. Don’t let your bucket list die with you; fulfill it before this life ends; remember, we only live once!
Go out on solo dates, plan a staycation, and do whatever you want because the sky is limitless; although we are not birds, don’t limit yourself. Remember to celebrate even your tiniest victory because you have worked hard for that, too.
HELP OTHERS
Helping others can significantly enhance your calm and confidence by fostering a sense of self-worth and reducing stress. When you help others, you experience a boost in self-esteem and happiness, which naturally shows confidence. Helping also releases endorphins, promoting a sense of calm and reducing anxiety.
Furthermore, engaging in philanthropic activities builds social connections and improves communication skills essential for confident interactions. Gaining knowledge of your challenges through helping others can make them seem more manageable, thus maintaining your composure. Moreover, emotional satisfaction must be addressed as an essential gain.
ACCEPT THE POSITIVITY
Be the person who lights up the room whenever you enter. Positivity around you will make you more optimistic and enthusiastic. You will network with people who will help you to grow and encourage you. Positive self-talk will make you believe in yourself and motivate you to do bigger things; why settle for less if you’re destined for more?
Start manifesting and thank the universe for all the energy that you have. No shit talks, bitching or back bittings. Surround yourself with people who add value to your life, not just people who linger around for attention.
You, your energy, and your goals—that’s it!
KEEP YOUR PROMISES
Be the woman of your word! Keep your promises and stick to your promises. I have included this on the list because it is essential to do what you say. First of all, it keeps you accountable for your actions. Secondly, fulfilling your promises gives you more confidence to help others and make promises. You will develop the feeling of saying it, and I did it!
Learning how to be calm and confident is a game-changer! Whether tackling a big presentation or navigating everyday life, these simple tips can make all the difference. Remember, it’s all about taking small steps and practicing regularly.
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